WORDS HURT.

Your profound awareness of this can change the world one phrase at a time! 

The new Time’s Up Movement is growing out of the sexual assault scandal involving Harvey Weinstein and “addresses the systemic inequality and injustice in the workplace that have kept underrepresented groups from reaching their full potential.” Celebrities have embraced the movement and stand in solidarity with all women who have been abused in the workplace.

At the heart of the movement is Rose McGowan who recently came forward with her accusations of her 1997 sexual assault by Weinstein.  Jill Messick served as McGowan’s manager. On February 7, 2018, Jill Messick died by suicide.

An email was issued by Weinstein’s lawyer, without Messick’s permission, in which it appears she defended Weinstein’s crimes against McGowan, as well as McGowan’s claim that Messick, as her manager, did little to help following the 1997 sexual assault. Messick’s family denies the allegations and feel being thrust into the public eye by the media incited her to take her life.

Messick’s family issued a detailed statement to The Hollywood Reporter claiming “the movement (Time’s Up) has lost one of it’s own.”

Jill was victimized by our new culture of unlimited information sharing and a willingness to accept statement as fact. The speed of disseminating information has carried mistruths about Jill as a person, which she was unable and unwilling to challenge. She became collateral damage in an already horrific story.

The family’s statement ends with the following:

Words have power. While we illuminate the dark corners for hidden truths, we must remember that what we say, particularly in the media, can have just as much impact if not more than our actions. We must ask more of ourselves, and of each other. We must take a moment to consider the ramifications and consequences of what we say and what we do.

Words matter.

Someone’s life may depend on it.

Time's Up book coverIn fact, the original Time’s Up movement was created years ago by Susan Murphy Milano (1960-2012) who addressed the needs of victims of intimate partner violence and how to safely leave an abusive relationship. Her book with the same title, Time’s Up!, is the blueprint containing the revolutionary tool the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit (EAA).

Susan knew that words could transform lives either positively or negatively through use of the media and her own tireless work with victims directly.  Words were her tools. If she were alive today, she would be shouting from the roof tops, TIME’S UP!

Funny how one word can transform a person’s reaction from radiance to rage in a matter of a few strategically placed phrases.  I make this point to stress the importance of understanding how language transmits an energetic force into the world.  

The example portrayed in the Jill Messick family statement demonstrates how powerful words, both written and spoken, create reactionary energy inside each one of us.  In a time when communication technology is super heightened; texting, instant messages, social networking and moreour natural filtering seems to be at an alltime low.  Which means, we say want we want, when we want and how we want without any consideration of the energetic transformation that piggybacks right along to the receiver at the other end. Eventually, this pulls us energetically further and further apart from  feelings of empathy, responsibility and oneness from our neighbors, communities and eventually society. 

 

Jill Messick 1967-2018

More oftenall crimes of VIOLENCE start with vicious words towards each other.  This kind of word-full abuse slowly permeates into the soul of a human being from the inside out.  The result of this kind of word-filled energy attack leaves a person with feelings of selfworthlessness, powerlessness and pain, a true indicator of a slippery path to destruction of everyone directly involved. 

Jill Messick is considered “collateral damage” in a scandal which she is attached to forever and was victimized by words written and spoken about her in connection with a national media story.

 

 

 

Assignment:

Be accountable for what you say, and present, to your loved ones this week.  Motivate yourself to replace old words with more elevated vocabulary choices, such as replacing victim with victor, survivor with thriver….